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Saturday, 9 May 2020 marks 34 months since Nikki was abducted. I currently have zero contact with him or receive news of his state of wellness. Parental Alienation is Child Abuse. Parental Alienation is a gender neutral form of abuse, it does not discriminate……either a father or a mother could be the perpetrator. It is with this context in mind that tomorrow, being 10 May 2020 and Mother’s Day is all the more special. Sadly it is sometimes only when we realise how destructive a mother can be that we really appreciate those women who have selflessly dedicated themselves to providing their children the very highest forms of love which they have to give…..They are an inspiration to all of us. Last May, the World Health Organisation officially recognised parental alienation syndrome for the first time, deciding to include it in the 11th revision of the International Classification of Diseases, which comes into effect at the beginning of 2022. Parental Alienation is characterise...

Today, 25 April 2020 is Parental Alienation Awareness Day. To most people, Parental Alienation is a very foreign concept that is never really contemplated or understood. But to some of us Parental Alienation is all too real, we are either a damaged child used as a weapon in an act of vengeance against a targeted parent or we are the targeted parent who has been forced to witness the terrible emotional abuses that our children are being subjected to…..There is unanimity around the world that Parental Alienation is child abuse. The subject of Parental Alienation has been widely studied and it’s causes and consequences are much better understood than they were a short few years ago…..however all the understanding in the world does not stop the damage that is being inflicted through Parental Alienation every day. Speaking to adults who as a child experienced a parent alienating another parent from them, the intensity of the anger and rejection towards the alienating parent is over...

Friday, 9 April 2020. Today marks 33 months since Nikki was abducted. I currently have zero contact with him, receive news of his state of wellness or have received any responses to communications directed at Nikki’s Mom or certain areas of the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice…...Parental Alienation is Child Abuse. As I sit and reflect over the past 7 years of my life, I can honestly say with conviction that I have witnessed with my own eyes……signs of a world that is creaking at the seams. From the terrible abuses inflicted on vulnerable members of our society (and sometimes by their own family e.g. parental alienation), through massive natural disasters to our current COVID-19 lockdown, one must certainly step back and wonder when will mankind take a long hard look at ourselves and realise we cannot continue this cycle. So today as I sit here after two weeks of lockdown I try to convince myself that although Nikki is not safe from the abuses of parental alienation, he might j...

Monday, 9 March 2020. Today marks 32 months since Nikki was abducted. I currently have zero contact with him, receive news of his state of wellness or have received any responses to communications directed at Nikki’s Mom or certain areas of the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice…..However work continues with new avenues being explored and new adventures to be taken on board. Parental Alienation is Child Abuse. https://youtu.be/AalKMOpqqME This 10 second video is the Norton Dominator motorcycle that my Dad was so lovingly restoring and wanted to show Nikki in running order. While Nikki's Oupa (my Dad) lay dying of cancer, he still found the strength to take Nikki to the garage to show him the bikes he was restoring,...the Norton was a particularly special project. Nikki's Oupa passed away after Nikki was abducted and never got to put the final touches on the Norton or show Nikki the bike in running order....I am eternally grateful to Kevin and Andy Robertson who boug...

Saturday, 9 February 2020. Today marks 31 months since Nikki was abducted. I currently have zero contact with him, receive news of his state of wellness or have receive any responses to communications directed at Nikki’s Mom or certain areas of the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice…..there is only a dark void and deafening silence. My attempts to drive the mediation process have been met with further silence and one can only assume that the response I received on 18 October 2019 stating “Ms. XXXXX-XXXXX stated that she did not oppose negotiations through a mediation procedure.” was just another mala fida utterance. Also during the past month there are a number of legal efforts underway in Bulgaria, 1.        In one of them, responses from Nikki’s Mom to the documents I have submitted are along the lines of “…a mixture of not-quite-truths; denials; requests for provision of documentation (which have been provided ad nauseam)..”. It is always with a...

Monday, 3 February 2020. Dear Nikki, wishing you a Happy 6 th Birthday! We all miss you and wish we could celebrate with you…..or just know what you look like and if you are alright. Lots of love from Daddy, Granny, Uncle Mark, Aunty Sanet, Matthew and Lily.

Thursday, 9 January 2020 marks 30 months since Nikki’s abduction. Sat 2019/11/02 7:53 AM – I respond notifying the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice that I am not happy that the proposed process is “is devoid of neutrality and disadvantageous to Nicholas and I.”. I proposed using a neutral mediator based in the UK……..I have had no response and last communication from the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice was Fri 2019/10/25 3:23 PM https://vimeo.com/356294593 a good explanation is delivered at 3:20 min

Wednesday, 1 January 2020. I don’t know whether the Christmas cards we sent to Nikki were received or not but let’s hope that the social media messages somehow find their way to him……. Happy New Year Nikki! May your year be filled with love, fun, peace, hope and prosperity. We love and miss you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQXSAVUNngg&feature=share&fbclid=IwAR3sATCQzUgKzG-Lq2kFe3gt1APec0M744ivrgjqNbp5SogNTFFuRzm_Ooo

Wednesday, 25 December 2019 - Another Christmas with no contact or information about Nikki whatsoever……Merry Christmas from all of us Nikki, we love you and miss you very much.

9 December 2019, marks 29 months since Nikki’s abduction. I am still 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact and receive no information with regards to his wellbeing. Parental Alienation in Child Abuse.  2019/04/22 - Formal application (in Bulgarian) for contact with Nikki signed by me. Fri 2019/07/26 1:25 PM – Receive a response that Bulgarian civil servants will be on leave Friday, 26 July 2019 3:52 PM – Request from the South African Department of Justice to the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice “that the negotiations be prioritized”. Mon 2019/08/26 12:03 PM – After requesting an update the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice remind us that are planning and will inform the competent social service in Bulgaria about exploring the possibility of negotiating with the mother about the applicant's contacts with his son. Tue 2019/09/10 4:29 PM – Notification from the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice that they have sent a notice to the relevant social services in Bulgaria. Fri...

Saturday, 9 November 2019 marks 28 months since Nikki’s abduction. I look through my records and find a formal application (in Bulgarian) for contact with Nikki signed by me on 22 April 2019, in between the appeal judgement and lodging the application I lost 3 months scrambling around trying to find out how to kick-start this process. Today it is 9 November 2019 and this is where we are at….. Mon 2019/08/26 12:26 PM: The Bulgarian Ministry of Justice advised me that they were planning to inform the competent social service in Bulgaria about exploring the possibility of negotiating with the Nikki’s mother about contact for me with Nikki. Mon 2019/10/21 12:41 PM: I was advised by the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice that the Family Mediation Center in Sofia, Bulgaria can organize mediation sessions and the costs are for the parents. Fri 2019/10/25 3:23 PM: I receive from the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice a list of 84 mediators in the Agreements Programme of Sofia Regional a...

9 September 2019 When the Child Protection Department (SSD Lozenets, Sofia, Bulgaria) told the court that "the child runs away from the father", they forgot about this video on the first and only visit that was successful at SSD Lozenets. Clearly at this stage of developments and despite the brainwashing Nikki had received, he was still fighting to have a relationship with me…… https://youtu.be/QK1RRYJR3S4 I initially did not post this video as I was told to stop filming by the officials at SSD Lozenets as taking pictures was not allowed and I feared that publishing this video may harm my case. Now in hindsight and with nothing to lose, it is time publish the video. Due to the lies told about me the visits were allowed (after a psychological assessment alone and second one with Nikki which contained this comment from the psychologist “..,I am categorically of the opinion that if the child was the target of violence on the part of the father, he would have manife...