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  Tuesday, 9 May 2023 marks 5 years and 10 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive any news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse. Paging through my diary of May 2019, I am reminded of a formal request Nikki's mother made via her lawyers to take Nikki on holdiday to Mauritius after I had declined to give my permission, given my fears of abduction. Nikki's mother had claimed that the holiday would be a wonderful experience for Nikki, they would stay at the Radisson Blu in Port Louis and there would be all sorts of fun activities for Nikki to participate in. On receiving the request my lawyers did some investigation into the Radisson Blu in Port Louis....only to find out that they were an adults only establishment and did not permit children to stay there. I went ahead and tried to make a booking to see for myself....and sure enough, no children allowed...

 Вторник, 9 май 2023 г. се навършват 5 години и 10 месеца от отвличането на Ники в София, България. Днес съм 100% отчуждена от Ники, нямам контакт или получавам новини за неговото благополучие. Родителското отчуждение е насилие над деца. Разлиствайки дневника си от май 2019 г., си спомням за официална молба, която майката на Ники направи чрез адвокатите си да заведе Ники на почивка в Мавриций, след като отказах да дам разрешението си, предвид страховете ми от отвличане. Майката на Ники твърдеше, че празникът ще бъде прекрасно изживяване за Ники, те ще отседнат в Radisson Blu в Порт Луис и ще има всякакви забавни дейности, в които Ники да участва. След като получиха искането, моите адвокати направиха известно разследване Radisson Blu в Порт Луис... само за да разбера, че те са заведение само за възрастни и не позволяват на деца да останат там. Продължих и се опитах да направя резервация, за да се убедя сам.... и разбира се, не се допускат деца...

  Sunday, 9 April 2023 (Easter Weekend) marks 5 years and 9 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive any news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse. During April of 2019, I am in communication with the National Prosecuting Authority… serious crimes have been committed and a child’s welfare hangs in the balance. I am also having more discussions with journalists to write some articles relating to border control in SA. During April, 2019 I have also entered into discussions with the European Court of Human rights about the application I lodged with them. Also in my diary, the Centurion Blues Football Club where I am playing soccer at the time hold   a quiz evening to raise funds for Nikki’s plight, I could never thank my teammates especially Miguel Taylor (work organised the event) enough for this incredible support.

  Thursday, 9 March  2023 marks 5 years and 8 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive any news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse. Looking at some correspondence with Nikki's school March, 2019. My request was dismissed in a three line response telling me to go and get a court order, the devastating effects of parental alienation on a child....clearly a non-issue for them. From:  paul@xxxxxxxx [mailto: paul@xxxxxxxxxx ] Sent:  Friday, 22 March 2019 9:03 AM To:  ' xxxxxxx@xxxxxx.bg ' < xxxxxxxxxx@xxxxxxx.bg >; ' xxxxxxx@xxxxx.bg ' < xxxxxxxxxx@xxxxxx.bg > Cc:  ' xxxxxxxxxx@xxxxxx.bg ' < xxxxxxx@xxxxxxx.bg >; ' xxxxxx@xxxxxx.bg ' < xxxxxx@xxxxxx.bg >; ' xxxxxx@xxxxxxx.bg ' < xxxxxxx@xxxxxxxxxx.bg > Subject:  Nxxxxx Mulder Importance:  High   Dear Ms xxxxxx and Mr. xxxxxx,   I write to you today as the father (Pa...

  Monday, 9 February 2023 marks 5 years and 7 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive any news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse . In January 2023, I  was happy to be made aware of this initiative    "Hi, my name is Lois Temel. I am a school teacher and filmmaker. Together with my co-producer, Dr Braam Ackermann (a psychiatrist), we are making a documentary on parental alienation. This is when one parent, normally during divorce and separation, turns the children against the alienated parent. In severe cases this can lead to no contact between the child and the alienated parent. Both women and men engage in alienating behaviour in equal measure and it has profound implications for the children and alienated parent involved. We have already interviewed several parental alienation experts for this film, including Dr Amy Baker. Funds raised will be to travel to Israel in Marc...

  Monday, 9 January 2023 marks 5 years and 6 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive any news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse ( https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=8U54NF_mAck ). In January, 2019 my diary tells me that I have just received the judgement of the appeal hearing. Nikki's mother now (as she had done towards the end in SA) made an interesting choice of legal representation, and used legal council who were better known for dealing with criminal matters than family matters ( https://www.novinite.com/ articles/129203/Lawyer+to+ Appeal+Verdict+in+Bulgaria% 27s+Double+Murder+Case ) . The strategy served her but not Nikki well. If you remember from my previous postings, I had won The Hague matter which ordered Nikki's return to South Africa where the Parenting Plan ordered by the High Court of South Africa should be implemented. Below are factors which the Appeal Court in Bulgar...

 Sunday, 9 October 2022 marks 5 years and 3 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/enlightened-living/202208/why-parental-alienation-is-form-domestic-abuse?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR3fm6LhR-xod8hREhOSNGUQjvlqiKzX5kZf2IwijQjIO3km0gYj7UBiKz4). Notes from my diary tell me that I was back to Bulgaria for another court case. For this particular court appearance I was working with my lawyers to see if we could bring Nikki's au pair over to Bulgaria as a witness. In the affidavits to the court the Nikki's Mom is citing grave risk of harm if Nikki is retuned to South Africa and I am working through mountains of crime stats in South Africa to try and defend against this argument... I also have the Child Educational Psychologist's forensic report tr...

Friday, 9 September 2022 marks 5 years and 2 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse. https://www.psychologytoday.com/.../why-parental... I find amongst my September emails this one below: given that it took me roughly 25 hours to get from my home to Sofia at a cost of around R20,000.00 and although I tried, this schedule was impossible to keep. There is a lot of back and forth between my lawyers and I where I am trying to get a translation of the protocol. Subject: Re: Re Nicholas Mulder - Re: Nikki Visitation Itinerary Dear All I have taken the Protocol from the court hearing from 15 June 2018 and have been at the social services department at Lozenets Municipality. They have explained to me from the SSD Lozenets Municipality that they will undertake any actions in accordance with the Protocol when they receive the Protocol officially from the cour...

  Tuesday, 9 August 2022 marks 5 years and 1 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse. It was also this South Africa National Women's Day, two years ago that Nikki's beloved 'Granny' passed away... she was a truly remarkable woman and one day Nikki will learn of her legacy. https://www.internationalwomensday.com/.../National-Women... From my diary, I can see in August, 2018 that I am working with the Child Abduction Center in the Netherlands who are in direct communication with my Bulgarian lawyers. My lawyers also sent me an email saying that Nikki's return to South Africa has been ordered by the Bulgaria court in The Hague matter. I also go to visit Nikki at SSD Lozenets (in Bulgaria) but I am told he is ill and he doesn't attend the visit, I ask my lawyers to correspond with Nikki's Mom's lawyers to find out what is...

 Saturday, 9 July 2022 marks 4 years and 12 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse. Looking at my diary in July 2018: I see my lawyers have made representations to Bulgarian border patrol in an attempt to prevent a further re-abduction to a non-Hague Convention country. I had also tried to have the forensic report generated in South Africa put in front of he Bulgarian court but they refused to accept it, if I remember correctly the reason being that it was presented as evidence in another court case and could not be used again. This was a huge setback as that report was very detailed and very telling. I am also discussing with my lawyer to present Nikki's Mom with my intended itinerary for trips to see Nikki in Bulgaria. My attempts to work with Nikki's Mom in this regard proved to be a huge mistake as you'll see in later posts where I t...

Thursday, 9 June 2022 marks 4 years and 11 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse. Looking through my diary, I was in Bulgaria again for a Hague court case. I am also emailing my business clients in South Africa asking for some leniency around project deliverables as I am battling with my personal circumstances. Fortunately and I am forever grateful, that they graciously accommodate my ever more  erratic schedule due to monthly Bulgaria trips. I'm also receiving emails from "Little Kickers", a soccer club which I enrolled Nikki at....regrettably I had to inform them that Nikki wouldn't be coming back......they very kindly agree to terminate his contract without any financial penalty to his already badly cash hemorrhaging Dad. Authorisations and money to translate various legal documents and psycholist reports into English or ...

  Monday, 9 May 2022 marks 4 years and 10 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his wellbeing. Parental Alienation is child abuse. 9 May 2022 is also celebrated as Victory Day in Russia and given the current situation between Ukraine and Russia, there are expected to be announcements by Russia with regards to their position related to Ukraine. I look on with a sense of nervousness and wonder what the implications for Bulgaria and Nikki could be? From my diary in May 2018, I see that I am preparing for a court ordered meeting with a Bulgarian psychologist where Nikki will be present. I am trying to negotiate for a longer time with Nikki than that designated by the court. I am also working with border control in Bulgaria to prevent Nikki being abducted again, this time out of Bulgaria. Claims are being made  that I made no effort to contact Nikki since his abduction, luckily I kept records ...

The prevention of Parental Alienation is the social cause which I actively support with all my heart. I am happy to be one of the live case studies in this webinar which is open to anyone who registers. If you are experiencing the trauma of Parental Alienation, this webinar might connect you with people who can help or provide you some insights into the nature of this terrible phenomenon. https://www.saam.org.za/training-events/

  https://youtu.be/0Y7jdcWiOzk Happy Birthday Nikki, Daddy loves you!

  Sunday, 9 January 2022 marks 4 years and 6 months since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his well being. Parental Alienation is child abuse. https://emmm.org.au/parental- alienation Some notes from my diary in January 2017: My lawyers received a letter from Nikki's mothers lawyers (I'll do the count but there was about the third of fourth set of lawyers Nikki's Mom was working with) which contained this statement "... my client has accepted a job offer from Microsoft requiring her to return to Bulgaria with an effective start-date of 1 February 2017, and she would never think of leaving South Africa without Nicholas." I signed documents appointing a child forensic assessor to determine the best interests of the minor child (Nikki) Communication was now flowing thick and fast between my and Nikki's Mom's lawyers, an advocate was also involved in my matter as I needed to defe...

Thursday, 9 December 2021 marks 4 years and 4 month since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his well being. Parental Alienation is child abuse. As I look at my calendar for December of 2017, I see I was frantically communicating with the South Africa Chief Family Advocate who was in turn communicating with her Bulgarian counterpart, all the while preparing my legal responses for the Hague Convention application which I had launched to have Nikki returned to South Africa. It was never my intention that Nikki should be returned without his mother, I have always held out that Nikki and his mother should both return to South Africa and that the parenting arrangement as ordered by the High Court be observed. As I look deeper into the calendar of events that were unfolding in December 2017, I see I was preparing a formal response to a Bulgarian social worker's report that was presented to court in Bulgari...

Tuesday, 9 November 2021 marks 4 years and 4 month since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki, have no contact or receive no news of his well being. Parental Alienation is child abuse. During the month of October I participated in a number of walks hosted by the Family Life Centre ( https://www.familylife.co.za/ ) for the promotion of mental health awareness. Mental health matters are intimately linked to Parental Alienation and the behaviours of an alienator are not easily understood by the average person.....it takes people with significant education and experience to help one make sense of the phenomenon. The Family Life Centre played an instrumental role in helping me to make sense of and deal with what was happening leading up to and after Nikki's abduction, they offer invaluabe services to families who are caught up in high conflict situations. In the enclosed picture, Nikki is at Clamber Club with his Granny and Oupa....Nikki wasn't...

Saturday, 9 October 2021 marks 4 years and 3 month since Nikki was abducted to Sofia, Bulgaria. Today I am 100% alienated from Nikki and receive no news of his well being. Parental Alienation is child abuse. During September, I made progress on both the initiatives which I mentioned in my previous post. The first one resulted in an interview process for me which although moving along slowly, is making progress and I'm hopeful that this will be another step forward in the direction of lifting the lid on this terrible phenomenon called "Parental Alienation" .  The second initiative also has yielded positive results with my initial proposal around, well let's just call it a "social initiative related to Parental Alienation" being accepted.  I don't feel that the time is right to speak in more detail about either of the initiatives but as I reach certain milestones, I'll hopefully be able to share some good news.

  Петък, 9 юли 2021 г., са 4 години от отвличането на Ники в София, България. В момента имам нулев контакт с Ники или получавам новини за състоянието му, въпреки многобройните опити по множество канали да поддържа присъствие в живота му. Отчуждението на родителите е насилие над деца ... Този месец продължих да събирам идеи за книгата "Историята на Ники" и започнах да слагам химикалка на хартия ...... Процесът се оказва много по-труден, отколкото първоначално очаквах .... Мислех, че мога да се изправя този процес с усещане за абстракция, където след повече от 4 години това би било все едно „да погледнеш“, а не „да живееш“ в процеса .... Не е, процесът много прилича на изкопаване на отворени стари рани и преживяване на болка ..... Само този път е може би по-лошо, защото докато преживявах травмата, винаги съм имал голяма вяра и очакване, че резултатът ще бъде различен ... Оказа се далеч по-лошо, отколкото някога бих могъл да очаквам, и сега преживявам отново опита със знанието, ...

В неделя, 9 май 2021 г., се навършват 3 години и 11 месеца от отвличането на Ники в София, България. В момента имам нулев контакт с Ники или получавам новини за състоянието му, въпреки многобройните опити по множество канали, насочени към майка му. Отчуждението на родителите е насилие над деца ... През последния месец бях на тенис корта и една дама, която играеше на корта до мен, беше довела малко малко дете ... Той току-що беше започнал да ходи и се чудеше на моя корт с бутилка в ръка. ... За първи път след отвличането на Ники не усетих, че искам да избягам и когато малкият падна ..... за първи път не паднах ..... и така осъзнах, че бях готов да направя още една крачка напред в тази ужасна сага. И така, започнах да определям структурата на книгата, която ще напиша, която ще служи като истинската антология на случилото се през първите три години и половина от живота на Ники. Книгата няма да бъде моята блудка или хипотеза, тя ще бъде подкрепена от доказателствата, генерирани от милионит...